Recognize the role of gender in violence.
While boys and men do experience abuse it is important to remember that the majority of victims of violence are female and the majority of perpetrators of violence are boys and men.
Educate yourself on the root causes of violence.
Violence against girls and women stems in male dominance and the socialization of men. Become educated on the roots of violence against girls and women! Read books and articles, join a group at school and attend any training available to you. Learn about the myths and realities of gender violence and understand how our society condones it.
Interrupt sexist and discriminatory language.
Words are powerful, especially when used by people who have power over others. We live in a society where words are used to put girls and women down. Gendered name-calling sends the message that girls and women are less than fully human. When girls and women are seen as inferior, it becomes easier to treat them with disrespect and violence. Change the way you speak to help change the way you think.
Be critical and question.
Be critical and question how the media portrays girls and women, whether on television, online, in magazines or in music videos. The media regularly uses images of violence against women, and sexually exploits girls and women to sell products. Write or e-mail the company about their negative images of women and girls and don’t buy their products.
Get the message out!
Youth do not need to rely on mainstream media to get the message out. Social media is a great way to share articles, tips and tools for the prevention of violence.
Report photos and messages that exploit women and girls.
Report any photos and posts you see that exploit or degrade girls and young women on social media sites like Facebook, Twitter and Instagram.
Interrupt abuse.
If you see a guy grab a girl or push her girl into her locker, say something to stop his abusive behaviour. If one of your female friends is intoxicated at a party and being led away by a guy, stop him from being alone with her and help her get home safely.
Stop sexual harassment.
Don’t engage in any forms of sexual harassment, such as catcalling, and unwanted touching and be empowered to speak up against friends and peers who do. Don’t look the other way!
Develop an action plan.
Plan ahead what you would do in situations where people you know – or strangers – are being abusive. Sometimes it’s easier to interrupt the abuse when you know what you will say beforehand.
Stop victim blaming.
Don’t blame girls and women for how they choose to dress or judge their behavior. Violence can’t be prevented through limiting the freedoms of girls. This only allows the violence to continue because perpetrators become invisible and not held accountable, and those who witness the abuse remain silent.
Stop rape culture.
One way to stop rape culture is by not allowing people to minimize or normalize sexual assault and rape through jokes. If a peer tells a joke about sexual violence against girls and women, say you don’t find it funny and you won’t tolerate it.
Call gender-based violence what it is – violence, not “bullying.”
Using the term “bullying” to label violence against girls and women masks the truth of what is really happening. By labeling it correctly you are helping to stop a culture which normalizes and minimizes violence against girls and women.
Create safe spaces to discuss gender-based violence.
Create an after school club or group where you can openly discuss your views and experiences and support your peers.
Confront and reflect on your ideas and beliefs.
Reflect on your beliefs, actions and opinions and why you have them. Be honest, admit your faults and commit to changing the way you think and act.
Stop stereotyping men’s and women’s roles.
Social roles and expectations may affect our decisions about relationships. Men are taught that expressing feelings is not “masculine.” Examine your social roles and learn ways to express feelings directly and non-violently to create more meaningful interpersonal relationships.
Remember that violence is a choice, and it is preventable.
Don’t make excuses for friends and peers who are violent. Do not support the notion that violence is caused by mental illness, lack of anger management skills, alcohol and drug use, stress, etc. Violence is a choice, and it is preventable.
Be supportive and believe.
When girls tell you about violence they have experienced in their lives believe them. It is extremely rare for girls to invent false stories about sexual assault and violence. You may be the first and only person she tells. Believe her and support her decisions, without being judgmental.
Be aware of available resources for girls and women.
Familiarize yourself with the resources for girls and women in your community, including women’s centres, shelters and antiviolence organizations. Be a positive resource for girls close to you by sharing information and making referrals.
Be a mentor.
Volunteer your time to preventing violence by speaking to others. This brings awareness to the issue, which will motivate others to act.
Understand and practice consent!
Boys and young men need to be respectful when entering into a sexual relationship and should not feel entitled to girls and women’s bodies. Just because you are a ‘nice guy’ does not mean you should have any expectations.
Originally published on Medium.com/@UN_Women
In 2020, COVID-19 touched our lives in nearly every way, everywhere, as countries went into lockdown and restricted movement to contain the spread of the virus. As doors closed and isolation began, reports of all forms of violence against women and girls, particularly domestic violence, began to rise.
The pandemic of violence against women is not new. Even before COVID-19 hit us, globally, 243 million women and girls were abused by their intimate partners in the past year. The COVID-19 pandemic intensified the violence, even as support services faltered and accessing help became harder.
As we mark the annual 16 Days of Activism against Gender-based Violence campaign (25 November – 10 December), UN Women is joining hands with survivors, activists, decision-makers, the UN system, and people from every walk of life, to shine a light on the need for funding, essential services, prevention and data that shapes better-informed responses.
Ending violence against women is everyone’s business.
Here are just ten ways you can make a difference, safely and impactfully.
1. Listen to and believe survivors
When a woman shares her story of violence, she takes the first step to breaking the cycle of abuse.
It’s on all of us to give her the safe space she needs to speak up and be heard.
It’s important to remember that when discussing cases of sexual violence, a victim’s sobriety, clothes, and sexuality are irrelevant.
The perpetrator is the sole reason for assault and must bear the responsibility alone. Call out victim-blaming and counter the idea that it’s on women to avoid situations that might be seen as “dangerous” by traditional standards.
Survivors of violence are speaking out more than ever before, and everyone has a role to play to ensure they can have justice.
Don’t say, “Why didn’t she leave?”
Do say: “We hear you. We believe you. We stand with you.”
2. Teach the next generation and learn from them
The examples we set for the younger generation shape the way they think about gender, respect and human rights. Start conversations about gender roles early on, and challenge the traditional features and characteristics assigned to men and women. Point out the stereotypes that children constantly encounter, whether in the media, on the street or at the school, and let them know that it’s OK to be different. Encourage a culture of acceptance.
Talk about consent, bodily autonomy and accountability to boys and girls, and also listen to what they have to say about their experience of the world. By empowering young advocates with information, and educating them about women’s rights, we can build a better future for all.
3. Call for responses and services fit for purpose
Services for survivors are essential services.
This means that shelters, hotlines, counseling and all support for survivors of gender-based violence need to be available for those in need, even during the coronavirus pandemic.
Every year, the 16 Days of Activism campaign calls for united, global action to end all forms of violence against women and girls.
This year the United Nations, together with our partners, are demanding four critical actions, summarized by our 2020 campaign theme: FUND, RESPOND, PREVENT, COLLECT.
Join us in calling on governments to bridge funding gaps to address violence against women and girls, ensure essential services for survivors of violence are maintained during this crisis, implement prevention measures, and invest in collecting the data necessary to adapt and improve life-saving services for women and girls.
4. Understand consent
Freely given, enthusiastic consent is mandatory, every time.
Rather than listening for a “no,” make sure there is an active “yes,” from all involved. Adopt enthusiastic consent in your life and talk about it.
Phrases like “she was asking for it” or “boys will be boys” attempt to blur the lines around sexual consent, placing blame on victims, and excusing perpetrators from the crimes they have committed.
While those that use these lines may have fuzzy understandings of consent, the definition is crystal clear. When it comes to consent, there are no blurred lines.
Learn more about consent>
5. Learn the signs of abuse and how you can help
There are many forms of abuse and all of them can have serious physical and emotional effects. If you’re concerned about a friend who may be experiencing violence or feels unsafe around someone, review these signs and learn about the ways to help them find safety and support.
If you think someone is abusing you, help is available. You are not alone. If you’d like to talk with a trained advocate at a helpline, we compiled this list of resources around the world.
6. Start a conversation
Violence against women and girls is a human rights violation that’s been perpetuated for decades.
It’s pervasive, but it’s not inevitable, unless we stay silent.
Show your solidarity with survivors and where you stand in the fight for women’s rights by oranging your social media profile for the 16 Days of Activism – you can download banners for Facebook and Twitter here.
On Instagram, you can use UN Women’s face filter to spread the word and encourage your community to do the same.
Use #orangetheworld, #16Days and #GenerationEquality to start your own conversation about gender-based violence, or share some of the content from our social media package.
7. Stand against rape culture
Rape culture is the social environment that allows sexual violence to be normalized and justified, fueled by the persistent gender inequalities and attitudes about gender and sexuality. Naming it is the first step to dismantling rape culture.
Every day we have the opportunity to examine our behaviours and beliefs for biases that permit rape culture to continue. Think about how you define masculinity and femininity, and how your own biases and stereotypes influence you.
From the attitudes we have about gender identities to the policies we support in our communities, we can all take action to stand against rape culture.
Learn more ways to stand against rape culture>
8. Fund women’s organizations
Donate to local organizations that empower women, amplify their voices, support survivors, and promote acceptance of all gender identities and sexualities.
UN Women works with women’s organizations everywhere to end violence against women, assist survivors, and secure equal rights for women and girls everywhere. Donate now at https://donate.unwomen.org/en.
9. Hold each other accountable
Violence can take many forms, including sexual harassment in the workplace and in public spaces.
Take a stand by calling it out when you see it: catcalling, inappropriate sexual comments and sexist jokes are never okay.
Create a safer environment for everyone by challenging your peers to reflect on their own behaviour and speaking up when someone crosses the line, or by enlisting the help of others if you don’t feel safe.
As always, listen to survivors and make sure they have the support they need.
10. Know the data and demand more of it
To effectively combat gender-based violence, we need to understand the issue.
Relevant data collection is key to implementing successful prevention measures and providing survivors with the right support.
As gender-based violence has spiked during COVID-19, the gaps in gender sensitive data collection have become more glaring than ever. Call on your government to invest in the collection of data on gender-based violence.
Find out at https://data.unwomen.org/ how UN Women works to bring about a radical shift in how gender statistics are used, created and promoted.
